I've wrestled with the same questions myself when I see friends in situations that I know are toxic. I want to have that conversation. I want to help. Yet I also know that I have been in toxic situations as well that at the time, I could not and would not see.
I think you're right about hitting rock bottom. Sometimes hitting bottom is what cracks us open to receiving the words and help that those who love and care for us long to give.
Very thoughful piece, Roo.